“That’s a very good idea, Miss Triggs,” reads a cartoon from New Yorker, “maybe there is a person who wants to offer it instead of himself?”. The picture shows a business meeting and poor Miss Triggs surrounded by male colleagues who seem ready to take credit for what she says. To some, this will now seem like an absurd plot: who would act so impudently with a colleague? However, when American astronomer Nicole Gugliucci first tweeted about the phenomenon in 2017, her tweet got 185,000 likes and 58,100 retweets. He also gave him a name: “reverie” or when men repeat what you say and take it for granted..

Not only mansplain (when men tell you something you obviously already know) and man-interruptions (when men keep interrupting a woman without letting her speak), there is a new neologism that works its way towards the same goal: to shed light on practice . just as annoying as the little-recognized one. The word is a mixture of ‘he’, ‘he’ and ‘repeated’, ‘repetitive’, and is beginning to be taken seriously in the UK. In particular, Ofqual’s non-ministerial staff have introduced the term into internal guidance, urging staff (especially men) not to behave in this way. “Now I can say things like, ‘Wow, I immediately got fired up again at this meeting.’ Or: ‘He made me fire up again,'” Gugliucci tweeted, with many women seeing her again, which is a sign that this seems to be what’s really going on. The astronomer also pointed out how difficult it is to point out a problem without appearing paranoid: “Someone will try to explain to you why ‘it doesn’t matter’ and you will be publicly ashamed,” she warned.

Men who love are likely not even too aware of their behavior. Women in meetings and in public places tend to be listened to less. The data says so: A 2014 George Washington University study found that when women speak, men interrupt them 33% more than when other men speak. In short, there’s a subtle sexism at the heart of it that doesn’t take the female voice into account.. Hence, “forgetting” that a certain idea has already been proposed by a colleague, and passing it off as your own is a short step. “Instinct tells me that if we want to go one step further in the ‘Miss Triggs question’, we must start from first principles, namely: what is the nature of authority in speech, what does it consist of, and how have we learned to recognize it as such? ,” writes Cambridge professor Mary Bird in her book. Women and power. “And,” he adds, “instead of encouraging women to take diction courses, to take on a sweet, deep, husky and downright contrived tone, we should think more about the fault lines and kinks that underlie the dominant male discourse.” In the meantime, we can start thinking about gapping and try to recognize it: maybe it will help us.