This Tuesday (6) is Sex Day. According to a study conducted by ProSex (Projeto Sexualidade) of the Institute of Psychiatry Hospital das Clínicas of the USP Faculty of Medicine, almost 60% of adult women reported dissatisfaction with their sex life in a relationship or marriage. Lack of affection and affection in relationships with their partners were the main complaints of 71.3% of respondents.

Study shows women are increasingly engaging in ‘casual sex’ – Credit: Unsplash/Disclosure/ND

In a survey conducted by Ashley Madison, the premier dating site for married people, 64% of women said they feel sexually neglected in their marriage, with 44% of them not having an enjoyable sexual relationship for a long time.

What motivates women to enter into informal relationships

Young women are more looking for relationships without commitment. Photo: Pexels/ND

Not surprisingly, a survey conducted by C-date, an exclusive casual dating site, showed that almost 40% of users choose casual relationships because there are no strings attached to them. Already 23.05% of respondents said they do not avoid serious relationships, but have other priorities, such as social and professional life, family, physical and mental health.

According to Barbara Bastos, clinical and educational sexologist and specialist in cognitive sex therapy, when single women have more opportunities to rediscover themselves, rediscover themselves and have new experiences. “It can be very useful if she knows how to use her freedom wisely,” the expert says.

Dani Fontinele, sex therapist and Abrasex participant; Increasingly you can see how women choose intimate moments of pleasure, but without the responsibility of a formal relationship. “When people let go of judgment, it becomes easier for them to understand the changes in women’s sexual behavior and the diversity of the possibilities of current relationships,” the sexologist emphasizes.

Experts called the benefits of free sex

More autonomy. According to Barbara Bastos, who is also a graduate student in the Department of Human Sexuality at the Institute of Child Behavior in Miami (USA) and the founder of Désier Atelier, for cultural reasons, women have a habit of satisfying the desires of others to the detriment of their own.

“By staying single and choosing casual sex, it becomes possible to make decisions in your favor to satisfy yourself. This includes choosing a partner; when, where and how you want to have sex,” he adds.

However, this does not mean being selfish, recalls Dani Fontinele, a sex therapist and host of the Clitcast podcast. “The ideal is to strike a balance by choosing practices and positions that both enjoy. If only because giving pleasure to another is extremely exciting, ”he added.

Increases self-esteem. According to a study published in the journal Social Psychology and Personality Sciences, casual sex actually improves self-esteem in almost 50% of the women surveyed.

“This type of relationship allows you to repeatedly experience that delicious phase of flirting, being in a bar with friends and realizing that a very interesting man has his eyes on you, butterflies in your stomach, games of seduction … Casual sex has the advantage that it gives a feeling of desire, attractiveness, confidence and, of course, high self-esteem,” says Barbara Bastos.

Increases orgasmic capacity: According to the International Journal of Sexual Health, the better the sex, the better you can get to know your erogenous zones and stimuli during intercourse, optimizing your sexual performance and, of course, your orgasms!

“By the way, here’s some advice for you: women are no less orgasmic than men. Against. They are physically capable of achieving multiple and intense orgasms. That is why women should be open to new experiences, including casual sex,” explains Dani Fontinele.

Be aware of the risks

Condoms should be used regardless of relationship, experts warn – Photo: Freepik/Disclosure/ND

It is worth remembering that casual relationships require twice as much responsibility. “Both birth control and a condom should be a part of all your meetings. Otherwise, there is a high risk of unwanted pregnancy and / or infection with sexually transmitted infections,” warns Barbara Bastos.

What’s more, according to an article in the Journal of Sex Research, casual sex with an acquaintance or friend requires aligning goals and expectations so that no one gets hurt. “Because the affective connections already exist, you are more likely to evoke a deeper feeling. After all, even though there is no intention for a serious relationship, passion arises when you least expect it, ”concludes Dani Fontinele.