The belief that an affair is good for marriage, that betrayal That all men cheat, and that infidelity only occurs in marriages in crisis, is normal practice or inherent in human nature, are persistent myths that permeate the public imagination. Moreover, blaming yourself for being cheated on is a harmful point of view that deserves to be deconstructed.

Cheating may or may not lead to the end of the relationship. Freepik/Disclosure/ND

It is critical to challenge these misconceptions by recognizing the complexity of relationships and promoting a more realistic and healthy understanding of loyalty and commitment. It is important to understand that in some situations, cheating does not have to be the inevitable end of a relationship.

Scientific research and my clinical practice, whether in the office or in consultations on a sex portal, undoubtedly show that adultery can affect relationships in different ways, and the answer to whether it is the end of a relationship will depend on several factors , including the specific circumstances, values, and choices of the couple involved.

It is important to note that today’s reflections are not intended to condemn or exonerate anyone. Together we will reflect on a painful and common topic. I present the view so that we can consider whether adultery is necessarily the end of a relationship. I also remember that this topic has personal and sociocultural definitions.

For some people and some couples, cheating is considered such a serious breach of trust that it makes it difficult or even impossible to repair the relationship. For others, it may be seen as a crisis, an obstacle that can be overcome with effort, communication and a lot of teamwork.

The ability to cope with infidelity and move forward often stems from a couple’s willingness to face the problem, understand the reasons that led to it, and put significant effort into rebuilding trust (yes, it takes effort!). Psychotherapy and couples therapy can be valuable resources in this process, offering a safe and non-judgmental environment for open communication, emotion regulation and problem solving.

From this point on, I clarify that restoring just the social appearance without addressing the underlying difficulties identified in the relationship will not support the well-being of the relationship.

It is necessary to consider the consequences of infidelity for those who deceived and for those who were betrayed. It is necessary to deal with grief, since the existing model of relationships has now died out.

We have some feelings that a betrayed person constantly experiences when they discover infidelity: anger, disbelief, feelings of loss, self-doubt, ruminating about the situation (persistently thinking and talking about the fact), loss of identity. .

Cases of cheating among celebrities

Bruna Biancardi talks about Neymar’s betrayal – Instagram/Reproduction/ND

After the resounding success of Miley’s betrayal song, Cyrus may sue her ex Liam Hemsworth – Divulgacão/Observatorio dos Famosos/ND

The Latin American pop star learned about Pique’s betrayal from a jar of strawberry jam – Reproduction R7/ND

Corinthians player discovered after taking his lover to his home – Internet/Reproduction/ND

Luisa Sonza cries as she reads a letter exposing her ex’s betrayal – Brazil News/Internet/Reproduction/ND

And the one who thinks that an unfaithful person cannot suffer is mistaken. There is relief at no longer having to lie, impatience at having to deal with a repeat of the event, chronic anxiety, isolation, shame and even self-loathing.

If the decision is made to continue the relationship, the relationship is not broken, and the cheater and betrayer are faced with a new task: to restore the relationship, or even better, to build a new relationship. We’ll have to learn how to form a couple again. At this stage, mistrust, uncertainty about success, a desire to heal the pain and the question of forgiveness arise. For building a new relationship to be critical, it is critical to deeply address existing issues before infidelity manifests itself in the relationship.

It is important to note that every relationship is unique and the consequences of infidelity can vary greatly. Although love is one of the main components of a relationship, it does not in itself sustain it. Some people and couples are able to overcome infidelity, while others may feel that trust has been irreparably damaged.

The final decision about the future of the relationship, that is, whether cheating will be the end of the relationship or a new beginning, rests with the couple involved.