Recently, the media and social networks have exposed the end of relationships involving famous people, which happened for different reasons and in different ways. We have witnessed the end of unlikely couples who defied the expectations of the collective imagination, as well as couples whose reason for being together remained unknown to many.

Reasons why relationships end usually revolve around 4 situations – Photo: Pexels/ND

To understand why relationships end, it is important to understand why they begin. What can happen between initial desires and subsequent disagreements? When you met, what was the implicit agreement between you? What was the unspoken agreement between them?

Based on my experience in clinical treatment and on the Sexo Sem Dúvida portal, I can say that over time you may notice that certain dynamics in a relationship no longer work. This makes me wonder: does love have an expiration date or do we just not know how to cope with the difficulties of coexistence?

Let’s explore together the understanding that relationships can end for a variety of reasons, and the circumstances vary from couple to couple. The reasons for relationship breakdown are varied.

4 main reasons why relationships end

1 – No Commitment: Making the relationship official is actually the starting point, not the final destination. Some people may not want to commit to a long-term relationship, which may lead to it ending. It is important to invest in relationships, and how to do it? Creating pleasant situations for living together, since relationships require daily care.

2 – Lack of Communication: As we have discussed here, effective and non-violent communication is fundamental in any relationship. Lack of communication, problems in this aspect, or even difficulties in expressing feelings and needs can lead to a break in the relationship.

3 – Lack of Sexual Intimacy – While sexual intimacy is important to many relationships, lack of sex does not automatically mean the end of a relationship. Relationships are complex and involve several aspects such as communication, emotional connection, compatibility, commitment and respect.

4 – Lack of fidelity/loyalty: It is important to realize that a lack of sexual intimacy can be a sign of underlying problems in the relationship, such as wear and tear, communication problems, stress or unresolved issues. Sometimes low sexual activity/intimacy is not a cause, but a consequence, and it needs to be addressed.

Communication is fundamental to the health of a relationship.

Remember that learning to communicate effectively is a daily exercise. You are responsible for what you say and also for what the other person understands. Many people disagree with this, but it is in the communication noise that inconsistencies in information arise.

Failures in communication are limited not only by the manner of speaking, but also by the ability to listen. And silence does not promote intimacy in a relationship; on the contrary, it promotes distancing. Building a shared life project requires difficult and enlightening conversations.

Many couples go through periods when the desire, frequency, or quality of sex decreases, but they can still maintain a loving and healthy relationship. Open dialogue and finding solutions can be fundamental to overcoming any problems in sexual intimacy and strengthening your relationship.

Finally, it is important to emphasize that every relationship is unique, and the reasons for its end can be complex and multifaceted. In many cases, couples therapy or individual psychotherapy can be helpful resources for resolving problems and preventing relationship breakdown.

However, in some situations, breaking up may be the best option for both parties, allowing them to move on and find a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. The goal is to find balance in attachments and learn to cope with the problems of coexistence.